Monday, August 24, 2015

heart blog: misfit monday

hey loves!

So another weekend has come and gone and it was a relatively calm one #PTL! Tripp coached the high school football game Friday night, we cleaned the house Saturday and ordered pizza then Sunday church and babysitting the niece and nephew so I don't have anything cool/interesting to share with y'all about my weekend.....EXCEPT this..Tripp and I were able to have a lot of heart to hearts this weekend because of the calmness and one thing we talk about a lot is friendships which leads me to this post.

My entire life has been a struggle with friendships. I know that God meant us to have a life that flourishes with friendships not just a significant other relationship. Tripp is my best friend but my heart has and will always be open to friends. In my life, friendships have been a bigger struggle than dating relationships. I am transparent about my life growing up was not easy so I do understand that it was more than difficult to be a friend during that time. It was tedious, stressful and downright a lifetime movie. So I give friends in my childhood and teens a break...it was hard and I can see why I didn't have any or friends for long.
Growing up I had the Disney afternoon schedule memorized while my brother played outside with his friends. In my teens, I would have a handful of girls that came in and out of my life but most of that stopped by the time I hit my 20s. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I am great at making acquaintances. One time I heard  a pastor say that you need to make wells out of relationships and I just have a bunch of puddles {I see you, J. Fox}. At this point in my life I just feel wrecked from emotionally putting myself out there with girlfriends and being left as a puddle. If you would have told 12 year old Lindsay that at 24, she would still struggle with having friends well, I'm just glad no one did because it is insanely defeating. {I realize all the people wanting to make the comment, oh but you were home schooled. Well, making friends wasn't hard...it's keeping them.}
So what is this post about? Having no friends? #reallylindsay?!
No, it's that I don't understand the world we live in where I am told as a being a believer my whole life to go out and fellowship while the majority of girls that have showed zero interest in being my friend were fellow believers. I'm so thankful that I already knew God and His love because I can't imagine how it would come off being shunned as a non-believer. I became very vulnerable while writing this because outside of my mom and my husband, I have not outright admitted that I have no friends. It was hard to write this post mostly because I didn't want to come off as poor, pitiful me or as a freak because what's my problem for having no friends. I write it to relate to not just the girl with no friends, but the WOMAN who desires female friendships and see how they are extremely beneficial but if not taken care of, very harmful. I also write this to female believers, WAKE UP, there are girls NEEDING friendships and completely worthy of them. Who are you to miss out on someone that could completely benefit your life!? I truly have so much in my heart to give friends.



So I leave you with this heart blog. I hope someone can feel less alone by reading this. 





See y'all tomorrow for Training Tuesday {I'm gonna share my soon-to-be lifestyle changes}! 





19 comments :

  1. This was a really beautiful post!! I great up having a lot of "friends" but those were very shallow friendships as we were so young - I believe in quality over quantity and have had about 6 friends all through life 2 of which are my mom and sister LOL! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

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    1. Thanks so much for reading and glad you can understand!

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  2. Yes! I've always had problems making friends too. But I have my 4 (maybe) friends and i'm happy with it. And i've got my family. Also, so cool that your hubby coaches. I'd love that!

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    1. Thanks for reading! He has a cool job for sure!

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  3. I'm sort of in the same boat and I think you'd be surprised how many others there are in similar situations!!! Sounds like you are a great friend to have though and have a great husband!!

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    1. So glad you can relate and to know we aren't alone! Thanks for reading! I love my blogging friends!

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  4. i have always struggled with friendships as well. i never had good friends, and have had a lot of really crappy friendships. i met my now best friend when i was 20 and she's the first real friend i ever had and it was the first time i really realised how friendship works and how awesome it can be. i'm super lucky to have her in my life. besides blogging friends, i have 3 real friends (and my husband) which i am totally okay with. quality over quantity!

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    1. Glad you can relate and that you have found such a good friend, gives me some hope for my own best friend! I definitely love my new blogging friends!

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  5. I am so glad I came across your blog today because I totally understand how you feel! I recently moved to a new city, and it's so hard without friends! It's so hard to put yourself out there. I do believe in quality over quantity though! :)

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    1. I'm so glad you stopped by too! I love new blogging friends, they definitely help out!

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  6. I completely understand where you're coming from. It's so hard to make deep relationships. I have always yearned for non surface level friendships that has unconditional love. If you were closer we'd be friends--I can just tell!

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    1. Sweetest comment! I definitely think we could be good friends and I love having you in my blogging world!

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  7. I struggle with this, too! Thank you for sharing...it's definitely nice to know others feel the same!

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    1. SO glad I'm not alone! Thanks for stopping by!

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  8. Oh that was so perfectly written. I totally can relate to a lot of this! Thank you for sharing! <3

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  9. I can completely relate to this! I have found it so incredibly difficult to make friends since being an "adult". I am super quiet & not very approachable sometimes so that makes even harder. I think about this a lot so it's nice to know that I'm not alone!

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    1. I totally understand being quiet, but know that you are NOT alone! Thanks for stopping by!

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  10. I totally respect the fact that you've put yourself out there like this. I'm 53 and I have a very small circle of wonderful - would - do- anything-for-me friends. This is my choice because I'm an introvert. I just found your blog today so I don't know much about you. If you are not making good friends at your church then I honestly struggle with that because it's the one place where you should find at least a of couple of women that you connect with on a great level. And if you don't, then I'd honestly change churches. Having someone to hold me accountable, to lift me up, and for me to do the same is a huge part of the Christian life. Good luck!

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